A polyamorous trio hopes to someday become husband and wife and wife! DeAnna Rivas, 27, begged her husband, Manny Rivas, 28, to allow her to take on a 20-year-old blond girlfriend named Melissa MJ James to help fulfill her sexual desires and care for the couple s two children. If you've been following this blog for any length of time, you may have guessed that my husband and I are not exactly in a traditional marriage.